Reality doesn’t meet expectations, it’s evidence that your model for operating in the world in incorrect. If you operated from, depended on or invested heavily into a model that fails you and brings negative consequence, depending on the intensity of the consequence, the degree of abruptness in the reveal, and the degree of reliance. There is a degree of Trauma.
Five Stages of Grief
Is actually very similar to experiencing the Heros Journey.
Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance
Seven Stages of Grief
Shock and Denial: Initial disbelief and emotional numbness as the mind struggles to accept the reality of the loss.
Pain and Guilt: The emergence of deep sadness, remorse, and regret as the shock wears off.
Anger and Bargaining: Frustration directed at oneself, others, or a higher power, often accompanied by “what if” thoughts to regain control.
Depression: A period of isolation, loneliness, and reflection as the full weight of the loss sets in.
The Upward Turn: A gradual shift toward calmness and acceptance, where the intensity of negative emotions begins to decrease.
Reconstruction and Processing: Actively rebuilding one’s life, finding new coping strategies, and integrating the loss into one’s sense of self.
Acceptance and Hope: Coming to terms with the reality of the loss, finding meaning, and looking forward to the future with a sense of hope, though sadness may remain.